Wedding traditions with the wedding cake
The wedding cake has changed shape many times.
The wedding cake has changed shape many times. It began as bread and a dry, spiced fruit cake and became the iced, tiered centrepiece of British and American weddings. Other countries have their own cakes, and some have no cake at all.
British and American cakes
The Roman custom of breaking barley bread over the bride's head is an ancestor. Medieval guests piled small cakes in a heap, and the couple were said to kiss across the pile. The white iced tiered cake grew in the nineteenth century, and Queen Victoria's cake of 1840 was famous. The top tier was kept for a christening or the first anniversary, and the cutting by the couple is a symbol of their first task together.
Cakes elsewhere
The French croquembouche is a tower of choux buns bound in caramel. The Scandinavian kransekage is an almond ring tower. In Germany the Baumkuchen, a layered cake made on a spit, is served, and in Italy the millefoglie is a layered pastry. In Japan the cake cutting is a Western borrowing, and in the Philippines, Nigeria and India, multi-tier cakes have become standard. In Ireland a fruit cake is still common.
Written by the EveryShaadi desk with AI assistance. Background on The wedding cake (symbol). Customs differ from place to place and family to family. If this is your tradition and we have it wrong, tell us.
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Photo credits on this page
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- Śmigus-Dyngus: Nationwide Specialty Co., Arlington, Texas -- In Buffalo, N.Y., Stanle, CC BY 3.0, source
- Indian wedding invitations: Onef9day, CC BY 3.0, source
- Chinese pre-wedding customs: Anonymous ( China ) Unknown author, CC0, source
- Oaxacan wedding: Adam Jones, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Wedding breakfast: Arpingstone, Public domain, source
- Courtship in the Philippines: Markytour777, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Assyrian wedding: Yucalyptus, CC0, source
- Bridal shower: The McClouds, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Arab wedding: 13th century artist, Public domain, source
- Traditional Vietnamese wedding: Gabrielle M. Vassal, Public domain, source