Wedding traditions with rice and grain
Rice is the grain of plenty, and in many parts of the world a wedding without it would be strange.
Rice is the grain of plenty, and in many parts of the world a wedding without it would be strange. It is thrown, offered in fire, poured into hands, eaten as the first meal and stored as a sign of a full house.
Throwing and offering
Throwing rice at the couple is common in Western and Asian weddings as a wish for fertility and abundance, and many venues now ask for petals or birdseed instead. In Hindu weddings the bride's brothers place puffed rice in her hands, and she offers it to the fire in the laja homa. Bengali and Maharashtrian weddings use rice grains in the tilak and akshata. In Pakistan and India, a bride may throw rice backward over her head as she leaves her family home, a gesture of repaying her parents.
Rice as food and gift
Chinese families give rice cakes and rice dishes. Indonesian and Thai families offer rice at temples, and in Japan a bowl of rice is shared in some regions. Korean weddings include dates and chestnuts in the pyebaek. In Vietnam and the Philippines rice is served to show prosperity. In many cultures the new couple's first meal includes it.
Written by the EveryShaadi desk with AI assistance. Background on Rice and grain (symbol). Customs differ from place to place and family to family. If this is your tradition and we have it wrong, tell us.
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Photo credits on this page
The small pictures above come from Wikimedia Commons under free licences. Some are cropped to fit.
- Marriage in Myanmar: Thant Zin Myint, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Tugging rituals and games: Steve46814 at English Wikipedia, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Khanom Si Thuai: Siripitch Chaiyabutra, CC0, source
- Phu Thê Cake: JeanFousrou52, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Punnuk: Bernardguerrero, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Romvong: U.S. Department of Agriculture, Public domain, source
- Baci: Dalbera, CC BY 2.0, source
- Slametan: Unknown author, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Kenduri: Andreasprasetya, CC BY-SA 4.0, source