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Bridesmaid
A female attendant who supports the bride during a Western wedding ceremony.
Bridesmaids are close friends or relatives who assist the bride on her wedding day. This role is common in Western cultures, with origins in ancient protective customs and social status displays.
When is Bridesmaid kept?
Bridesmaid is kept during the wedding ceremony and related events.
Bridesmaids are women chosen by the bride to support her before and during the wedding. They help with planning, attend pre-wedding parties, and stand by the bride at the altar. The role has evolved from ancient protective duties to modern companionship.
Role and history
The tradition likely began as a way to protect the bride from evil spirits or kidnappers by having attendants wear similar clothes. In feudal China, this confused rival clans. In Victorian Britain, white dresses became standard after Queen Victoria's wedding. Historically, large groups showed off family wealth and status.
Modern duties
Today, bridesmaids help plan the wedding and host events like bridal showers. They may pay for their own travel and attire. On the day, they assist with the dress and veil. In the US, they often serve as legal witnesses for the marriage license. Costs can be significant for attendees.
Key titles
The lead attendant is called the maid of honor if unmarried or matron of honor if married. A junior bridesmaid is a young girl too young to marry. In some European countries, these children carry flowers. The male equivalent is the groomsman or usher.
How Bridesmaid is kept
The bride selects her attendants from close friends or family. They help plan pre-wedding events like showers and bachelorette parties. On the wedding day, they stand near the bride, help with her dress and veil, and may sign the marriage license as witnesses. They often wear matching outfits chosen by the bride.
When and where
This custom occurs during the engagement period and on the wedding day itself. Pre-wedding events happen weeks or months before. The specific timing depends on the couple's schedule and local traditions.
This practice is most common in Western countries like the United States, United Kingdom, France, Netherlands, and Norway. It also has historical roots in China. The role varies slightly by region, such as flower girls in Europe.
What Bridesmaid means
Originally, matching clothes protected the bride from evil spirits or kidnappers. Today, it symbolizes friendship and support. The group represents the bride's social circle and family ties. The maid of honor holds special trust as the primary helper.
Who takes part
- Bride: Chooses attendants and sets expectations for duties and costs.
- Maid of honor: Leads planning, manages logistics, and provides emotional support.
- Bridesmaids: Attends events, helps with planning, and stands with the bride.
- Junior bridesmaid: Participates in the procession, often carrying flowers.
- Witnesses: Sign the marriage license if required by law.
If you are a guest
Guests do not have specific duties for bridesmaids. They may attend pre-wedding events if invited. Gifts are usually given to the couple, not the attendants. Guests should respect the bride's choices regarding the wedding party size and roles.
Then and now
Modern couples often reduce the number of attendants to save money and stress. Some choose no bridesmaids at all. The role has become more optional, with less pressure to pay for expensive dresses or events. Gender roles are also changing, with men sometimes serving as attendants.
On the wedding table
Questions people ask about Bridesmaid
When is Bridesmaid kept?
Bridesmaid is kept during the wedding ceremony and related events.
What is a bridesmaid?
A bridesmaid is a woman chosen by the bride to support her during the wedding. She helps with planning and stands by the bride at the ceremony. This role is common in Western weddings.
What does the maid of honor do?
The maid of honor is the lead attendant. She helps plan pre-wedding events, assists with logistics, and provides emotional support. She may also hold the rings or give a toast.
Do bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses?
Yes, typically bridesmaids pay for their own attire and travel. The bride may offer gifts as thanks, but there is no obligation to cover costs. Etiquette allows declining if expenses are too high.
Can men be bridesmaids?
Yes, though rare. Some brides choose male friends as attendants, calling them 'bridesmen' or using the title 'best man'. This is a modern adaptation of the traditional role.
See also
GroomsmanA male attendant who supports the groom and assists guests at a wedding.
Page boyA young male member of the bridal party who manages the bride's train or carries the wedding rings.
QuaichA shallow two-handled cup used in Scottish weddings to share a drink and symbolise union.
Blessing ceremony of the Unification ChurchA large-scale marriage rededication or new union ceremony that engrafts couples into a sinless lineage.Good reading and sources
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