Hindu wedding traditions
A Hindu wedding, or vivaha, is one of the samskaras, the life rites, and is usually held before a sacred fire.
A Hindu wedding, or vivaha, is one of the samskaras, the life rites, and is usually held before a sacred fire. It can last an hour or several days, and it differs widely by region, language and caste. What follows is an outline, and families will tell you their own version.
The sacred fire and the seven steps
The fire, Agni, is the witness. The central acts are the saptapadi, seven steps taken together around the fire with a vow for each, and in many communities the pani grahana, the clasping of hands. Under the Hindu Marriage Act of 1955 in India, the saptapadi completes a marriage where it is the custom of the parties. Other rites include the garland exchange of jaimala, the tying of the mangalsutra in the south, the sindoor in the north and east, and the laja homa, in which rice is offered into the fire.
Kanyadaan and its debates
In kanyadaan the bride's father places her hand in the groom's, a rite often translated as the gift of the daughter. Some Hindus see it as the highest act of generosity. Others, including reformers since the Arya Samaj and many modern couples, object that a woman is not a gift, and skip it or change it so that both families give each other. Priests are divided, and the debate is open.
Regional variety
A Tamil Brahmin wedding includes the kashi yatra, the oonjal swing and the tying of the thali. A Bengali wedding has the shubho drishti, when the couple first look at each other under a betel leaf, and the sankha and sindoor. A Gujarati wedding has the jaimala and the mangal pheras. A Malayali Hindu wedding is brief, with a thali tied in front of a lamp. A Marathi wedding has the antarpat and the mangalashtak chanted. Nepal, Bali and Fiji each keep their own forms, and Balinese Hindu weddings have a distinct ritual structure.
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Written by the EveryShaadi desk with AI assistance. Background on Hindu (faith). Customs differ from place to place and family to family. If this is your tradition and we have it wrong, tell us.
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🇮🇳 IndiaWanvun
A Kashmiri choral singing style performed before weddings and religious ritesPerformance · The weeks before
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A silver band worn on the second toe to mark a woman as married in India.Adornment · The ceremony
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The traditional matrilineal marriage alliance of Kerala's Nairs and Nambudiris.Betrothal · Finding a match
🇮🇳 IndiaMadisarமடிசார் (Madisar)
The nine-yard sari drape worn by Tamil Brahmin women during weddings and religious rites.Attire · The ceremony
🇮🇳 IndiaOonjal
A decorated swing where the Tamil bride and groom sit to receive family blessings.Blessing · The ceremony
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The white cotton and gold border attire worn by Malayalis for weddings and festivals.Attire · The weeks before
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Rice flour floor paintings that bless homes and mark wedding celebrations in Bengal.Adornment · The weeks before
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A long, side-fastening jacket worn by grooms and men at formal Indian weddings.Attire · The ceremony
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The groom's wedding procession through the streets to the bride's home or venue.Performance · Procession and arrival
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Film and folk music that accompanies the stages of a North Indian Hindu wedding.Performance · Engagement and betrothal
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The songs and instruments that mark the arrival of the couple and set the mood for the celebration.Performance · The weeks before
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🇳🇵 NepalIhiईही
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🇱🇰 Sri LankaPoruwa ceremony
The Sinhalese wedding ritual performed on a carved wooden platform with betel leaves and milk rice.Rite · The ceremony
🇮🇳 Goa, IndiaHaldi Kumkum
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The henna body art applied to brides and guests before a South Asian wedding ceremony.Adornment · The weeks before
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A floral or beaded veil tied to the groom's turban before he departs for the wedding ceremony.Attire · The weeks before
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Decorated cards sent to announce a marriage and invite guests to the celebration.Betrothal · The weeks before
🇮🇳 Mumbai, India and 3 moreDowry system in Indiaदहेज (Hindi), ज़ेहर (Urdu)
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The exchange of flower garlands that marks mutual acceptance in a Hindu wedding.Rite · The ceremony
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A long skirt worn as the base of a bridal outfit across the Indian subcontinent.Attire · The ceremony
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- Svayamvara: Nandalal Bose, Public domain, source
- Ihi: Dirghaman Chitrakar, Public domain, source
- Poruwa ceremony: A Derivative Work by MediaJet ,, CC BY 2.0, source
- Odia Hindu wedding: Aditya Mahar, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Arranged marriage in the Indian subcontinent: Hindustanilanguage, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Mehndi: AKS.9955, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Korovai: Olli Niemitalo, CC0, source
- Sehra: SynthContibutor, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Indian wedding invitations: Onef9day, CC BY 3.0, source
- Dowry system in India: Unknown author, Public domain, source
- Gandharva marriage: Amitdighe, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Marriage in Korea: Jérôme Banal ( Eden2004 ), CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Shankha: Salil Kumar Mukherjee, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Baci: Dalbera, CC BY 2.0, source
- Blessing ceremony of the Unification Church: Unknown author, Public domain, source
- Kenduri: Andreasprasetya, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Aiburo Bhaat: Ranganm2021, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Maithil Vivah: Sntshkumar750, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Alpana: Tripan123, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Mandapa: Rajendran Ganesan, CC BY 2.0, source
- Tulasi Vivah: Unknown author, CC BY 3.0, source
- Wedding ring: CLW at English Wikipedia, Public domain, source
- Toe ring: Wikiss, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Matchmaking: Pavel Fedotov, Public domain, source
- Bride price: Пимоненко Николай Корнилиевич, Public domain, source
- Varamala: Sumita Roy Dutta, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Baraat: https://www.flickr.com/photos/pnglife/, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Gaye holud: Arr4, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Lehenga: Iwaqarhashmi, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Meitei wedding: Dabu Leichombam, CC BY-SA 4.0, source