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Luck, omens and protection on the day

A wedding is a threshold, and nearly every culture treats thresholds as dangerous and hopeful at once.

A wedding is a threshold, and nearly every culture treats thresholds as dangerous and hopeful at once. So couples are showered with rice, tied with threads, guarded from the evil eye, handed bread and salt, or sent over a broom. This page follows the luck customs of the wedding day and what each one is meant to do.

Two jobs: invite good fortune, keep out harm

Luck customs split into those that call something in and those that keep something out. Rice, petals, coins, sweets and flowers are thrown or offered to bring plenty and children. Noise, red cloth, kohl, a black dot on the cheek, iron, salt and bells are used to drive off envy or spirits, because a bride and groom in their finest clothes are thought to attract the evil eye. Many customs do both at once, such as the Chinese firecracker that is loud for luck and for protection.

Objects that carry the wish

Bread and salt in Poland, Russia and Ukraine offer a household that will never go hungry. The horseshoe hung over an Irish or English door, the Scottish sixpence in the shoe, the lucky silver coin, the Welsh lovespoon and the Italian sugared almonds (confetti) all hand the couple a small object to keep. In India a thread, a mangalsutra or a pair of toe rings marks the married woman and is also a protection. Colour matters too: red for luck in India, China and Vietnam, white for purity in the West, and yellow turmeric for blessing and cooling.

Omens and what to avoid

Superstitions often concern what could go wrong: rain on the day, a groom seeing the bride's dress before the ceremony, a broken mirror, a cat crossing the path, or a bride wearing pearls. Rain is welcome in many places, as a sign of fertility in parts of Hindu and Western tradition. Breaking something, a glass at a Jewish wedding or plates at a Greek one, turns a moment of fear into one of joy. Families usually treat these as play, and few will insist on them, but many couples still keep one or two.

How it is changing

Today the old logic is often kept as ritual and photograph. Rice has given way to petals, bubbles or dried lavender in venues that ban it, and the something old, something new rhyme is followed by couples who never think of it as a charm. Even so, mothers and grandmothers still tie the thread, hang the lemon and chilli, or slip the coin into a pocket, and most couples accept it with affection.

Luck, omens and protection on the day around the world

🇮🇳 India

At many Hindu weddings the mother-in-law or an aunt puts a black dot of kajal behind the bride's ear, and the couple's wrists are tied with a sacred thread (kalava or mauli). Rice is poured into the bride's hands and thrown over the groom as a blessing of plenty.

Evil eye, being written

🇵🇰 Pakistan

At a mehndi night, a plate of henna and lit lamps is carried to the bride, and a black thread or a pinch of kohl is often used to guard the couple. Coins and sweets are waved around the heads of bride and groom and given away, a custom called sadqa, to take the evil eye with them.

Read: Mehndi

🇵🇭 Philippines

Rice grains, coins and flower petals are showered on the couple as they leave the church, and a pair of white doves is released at many weddings. The aras, thirteen coins blessed by the priest, are handed from groom to bride as a promise of provision.

Read: Las arras

🇨🇳 China

Red is the colour of luck, so the bride wears red, firecrackers are lit, and the symbol of double happiness is cut in paper and pasted on doors. Families pick the day and hour from the almanac, and in some places a bride steps over a basin of burning charcoal to enter the new home.

Read: Double Happiness

🇯🇵 Japan

The Shinto bride may wear the white hood tsunokakushi, and the couple share three cups of sake three times in the san-san-kudo, an act of union and blessing. Gifts and envelopes are tied with a mizuhiki knot that cannot be undone, for a marriage that will not be untied.

San-san-kudo, being written

🇬🇪 Georgia

The groom's family brings a horn of wine, and the wedding supra is led by a tamada who proposes toasts to the couple, ancestors and the future. A newlywed bride in some regions is welcomed at the new house with honey and bread.

Supra, being written

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Traditions to start with

Also part of it, and being written: Evil eye (The belief that envy harms, and the charms against it.), Something old (The English rhyme of four lucky items.), Breaking glass (The Jewish breaking of a glass at the close.), Rice throwing (Grain as a wish for plenty.).

Questions people ask

Why do people throw rice at weddings?

Rice is a sign of plenty and many children in the traditions that use it, from India to Europe. Some venues now ask for petals or bubbles instead because rice can be slippery and hard to clean.

Is it bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding?

It is a Western custom, tied to the days of arranged marriages when the couple might not have met. Many couples now meet for photographs first, and no one in the family usually minds.

What is the evil eye at a wedding?

It is the belief, found from Greece and Turkey through the Middle East to India, that envy can bring harm. Blue beads, black dots, red thread and salt are used to guard the couple.

Is it lucky to rain on a wedding day?

In many cultures, including some Hindu, Irish and Western traditions, rain is said to bring fertility and good fortune. Others treat it as a bad sign, so it depends on whom you ask.

Do I have to follow these customs?

No. Most families see them as a way of including relatives and remembering the past. Many couples choose a few that mean something to them and leave the rest.

About this page

Written by the EveryShaadi desk with AI assistance. Customs differ from place to place and family to family. If this is your tradition and we have it wrong, tell us.

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The traditions written up so far, best known first.

🇺🇦 Ukraine and 2 moreRushnykрушник (Ukrainian), ручнік (Belarusian), ручник/рушник (Russian) The embroidered linen cloth that marks life stages and guides the couple through the wedding ceremony in East Slavic culAdornment · The weeks before 🇩🇪 Hamburg, Germany and 3 moreWimpelווימפל A linen sash made from a baby boy's circumcision cloth that binds the Torah scroll.Adornment · The weeks before 🇸🇿 Ludzidzini Royal Village, Eswatini and 1 moreUmhlanga The annual Swazi and Zulu gathering where young women cut reeds to preserve chastity and offer tribute labour.Rite · The eve 🇮🇩 Indonesia and 2 moreKenduri A communal feast and prayer gathering held by Javanese and Malay communities to mark life events.Feast custom · The weeks before 🇲🇽 Oaxaca, Mexico and 1 moreHuipilhuīpīlli The traditional tunic worn by indigenous women in Mexico and Central America for weddings and daily life.Attire · The weeks before 🇲🇽 Mexico and 1 moreLa víbora de la mar A wedding game where the couple stands on chairs while guests form a snake to test their unity.Play · Reception, dance and gifts 🇪🇬 Egypt and 4 moreWaist beads Strands of glass or seed worn around the hips to mark womanhood and track body changes in West and North Africa.Adornment · Engagement and betrothal 🇹🇷 Kayseri, Turkey and 4 moreHalay A traditional line and circle dance performed across Turkey and surrounding regions at weddings.Performance · The ceremony 🇮🇩 IndonesiaUlosᯥᯞᯘᯬ᯲ The hand-woven textile that binds Batak couples in marriage and symbolizes warmth.Attire · The ceremony 🇮🇳 Delhi, India and 1 moreBaraat The groom's wedding procession through the streets to the bride's home or venue.Performance · Procession and arrival 🇮🇳 IndiaGaye holudগায়ে হলুদ The turmeric ceremony that prepares the Bengali bride and groom for marriageRite · The weeks before 🇹🇴 Tonga and 2 moreTaʻovala The woven pandanus mat worn around the waist for formal occasions and weddings in Tonga.Attire · The weeks before 🇹🇴 TongaLakalaka A formal Tongan group dance where performers stand in rows and move their arms to express respect.Performance · The ceremony 🇨🇳 China and 3 moreMarriage coin charm夫妇和合花钱 (fū fù hé hé huā qián) Numismatic amulets from East Asia that carry wedding blessings and fertility symbols.Adornment · Engagement and betrothal 🇺🇸 United States and 3 moreJumping the broom A wedding ritual where a couple leaps over a broom to mark their unionRite · The ceremony 🇬🇧 Edinburgh, United KingdomLuckenbooth brooch A Scottish heart-shaped silver token of love and protection worn at weddings.Adornment · Engagement and betrothal 🇷🇴 Romania and 7 moreHorahora (Romanian), horo (Bulgarian), oro (Macedonian), horah (Hebrew) A circle dance held at weddings across Southeast Europe and among Jewish communities worldwide.Performance · Reception, dance and gifts 🇮🇳 India and 2 moreHindu weddingvivaha (विवाह) The traditional marriage ceremony for Hindus, centered on sacred fire and seven vows.Rite · Engagement and betrothal 🇮🇳 IndiaKettu KalyanamTālikettukalyānam A mock marriage ritual in Kerala that marked a girl as ready for real unions by tying a sacred thread.Betrothal · The weeks before 🇮🇳 India and 1 moreAiburo Bhaatআইবুড়ো ভাত The final bachelor feast for the bride and groom before their Bengali weddingFeast custom · The weeks before 🇵🇱 Poland and 1 moreBadchenבּדחן (badkhn) The Ashkenazi Jewish wedding entertainer and master of ceremonies who guides the couple through ritual stages with song Performance · Engagement and betrothal 🇩🇪 Germany and 5 morePolterabend The evening before the wedding when guests break porcelain to bring luck and test the couple's teamwork.Blessing · The eve 🇱🇰 Sri LankaPoruwa ceremony The Sinhalese wedding ritual performed on a carved wooden platform with betel leaves and milk rice.Rite · The ceremony 🇫🇷 Paris, FranceGlobe de mariée A glass bell jar used in France to hold the bride's bouquet and preserve family memories.Adornment · The weeks before 🇬🇧 United Kingdom and 3 moreCare cloth A linen or silk cloth held over the heads of a bride and groom during a Christian wedding blessing.Attire · The ceremony 🇷🇺 Russia and 5 moreBread and salt A traditional welcome offering of bread and salt to guests or newlyweds in Slavic, Baltic, and Balkan cultures.Feast custom · The weeks before 🇨🇳 China and 6 moreRed envelope红包 (hóngbāo) A gift of money in a red paper sleeve exchanged at weddings and holidays to bring good luck.Gift custom · The wedding feast 🇮🇳 India and 1 moreChuraचूरा (Hindi) The red and white bangles that mark a bride's new status in Indian Hindu weddingsAttire · The weeks before 🇮🇳 Goa, IndiaHaldi Kumkum A gathering of married women in southern India who exchange turmeric and vermilion to celebrate their status.Blessing 🇮🇳 IndiaBrahmanippattu A devotional song and dance performed by Nambeesan women to bless a marriage with the grace of the Goddess.Performance · The weeks before 🇸🇾 Syria and 3 moreMystery of Crowning The crowning ritual in Eastern Christian weddings that marks the couple as king and queen.Rite · The ceremony 🇵🇱 Kraków, PolandWedding of the Weddings A Polish annual gathering for couples who chose alcohol-free wedding receptions.Feast custom · The ceremony 🇷🇴 Romania and 4 moreCălușariCălușarii A traditional Romanian spring dance and male society known for acrobatic leaps and ritual healing.Performance · The weeks before 🇳🇴 NorwayEsbat A monthly Wiccan gathering held around the moon phases for ritual and communityBlessing · The ceremony 🇮🇩 IndonesiaSlametan A communal Javanese feast that brings neighbors together for peace and social unity.Feast custom · The weeks before 🇳🇵 NepalSherpa marriage The astrological matching and barley beer offering that binds a Sherpa couple.Betrothal · Finding a match

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