🇺🇸 Wedding traditions of the United States
90 traditions from the United States, best known first, across 27 cities and towns.
Marriage in the United States is a legal contract regulated by individual states rather than federal law. Couples typically choose between civil ceremonies and religious rites, with customs varying widely across different cultural communities. The institution has evolved significantly through legal changes regarding age, interracial unions, and same-sex partnerships.
In the United States, marriage is primarily a legal status defined by state statutes rather than a single national code. Couples may marry in civil settings or through religious institutions, depending on personal preference and community tradition. The practice reflects a diverse population where customs from many backgrounds coexist within a framework of individual rights and local regulations.
A typical wedding
Most couples begin by selecting an officiant who can legally solemnize their union. This person might be a judge, a clergy member, or an ordained minister. Many people also hold engagement parties before the main event. The ceremony itself often includes vows, ring exchanges, and readings chosen by the couple. Reception traditions vary greatly. Some gatherings feature formal dinners and dancing, while others are more casual. Food choices range from buffet styles to plated meals. Entertainment often includes live bands or DJs. Guests usually attend in semi-formal attire unless specified otherwise. The celebration serves as a public declaration of the partnership.
Law and registration
Each state sets its own rules for who may marry and at what age. Generally, individuals must be eighteen years old to marry without parental consent. Nebraska requires partners to be nineteen, while Mississippi sets the age at twenty-one. Puerto Rico also mandates that partners be twenty-one. Some states allow minors to marry with judicial or parental approval. The Supreme Court ruled in 1967 that bans on interracial marriage were unconstitutional. Alabama removed such language from its constitution in 2000. Same-sex marriage became legal nationwide in 2015 following a Supreme Court decision. Divorce laws vary by state and handle property division and child custody.
Wedding season
There is no single official wedding season across the country due to its geographic size. However, late spring through early autumn sees the highest number of ceremonies. This period offers favorable weather in most regions. September and October are particularly popular months. Winter weddings occur but are less common outside of resort areas. Some families avoid certain times of year for religious reasons or holiday conflicts. Urban centers see events throughout the year regardless of season. Couples often book venues one to two years in advance during peak times.
Gifts and money
Guests typically provide gifts from a registry created by the couple. These registries list items the couple needs for their new home. Cash gifts are also common and often given in envelopes at the reception. Some guests contribute to honeymoon funds or charitable donations instead. The couple usually pays for the majority of the wedding costs themselves. In some traditional families, the bride's family might cover specific expenses like the reception venue. Modern trends show couples paying for more elements of their own celebrations. Gifts are opened privately or not at all in favor of direct contributions.
Communities
American weddings reflect the nation's diverse cultural heritage. Jewish ceremonies often include breaking a glass underfoot. Christian services frequently take place in churches with hymns and sermons. Muslim weddings involve a contract signing and separate gatherings for men and women. Hindu ceremonies may last several days and include rituals around a sacred fire. Indigenous communities incorporate traditional songs, dances, and clothing. Latino weddings often feature large family involvement and lively music. Each group maintains distinct customs while participating in the broader legal framework of the country.
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A wedding in the United States, stage by stage
The customs written up so far, in the order a wedding unfolds.
Cities, towns and villages of the United States
🇨🇳 China and 3 moreDouble Happiness双喜 (shuāngxǐ)
The red calligraphy symbol made of two joy characters that marks Chinese wedding celebrations.Adornment · The weeks before
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreBridesmaid
A female attendant who supports the bride during a Western wedding ceremony.Family role · Engagement and betrothal
🇨🇳 China and 5 moreBride buying
The exchange of money or goods for a woman to become a wife.Gift custom · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 United StatesGroom's cake
A second dessert served at the wedding reception or rehearsal dinner to reflect the groom's tastes.Feast custom · Reception, dance and gifts
🇺🇸 United StatesUnity candle
A modern wedding ritual where a couple lights a central candle from two tapers to symbolize their union.Rite · The ceremony
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreSaber Arch
An arch of swords or sabers held over a couple as they exit their wedding ceremony.Rite · The ceremony
🇺🇸 Hawaii, United StatesCommon-law marriage in the United States
A legal union formed by mutual consent and public presentation without a license or ceremony.Vow · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreInterfaith marriage
A union between spouses of different faiths, navigating legal and religious boundaries across the world.Vow · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 United States and 2 moreLavender marriage
A heterosexual union formed to hide the queer identity of one or both partners and protect a public career.Vow · Engagement and betrothal
🇮🇳 Delhi, India and 4 moreSindoorसिंदूर (Hindi)
The vermilion powder a Hindu husband applies to his wife's hair parting to mark her marriage.Adornment · Engagement and betrothal
🇨🇳 China and 5 morePosthumous marriageminghun
A union performed when one or both partners have died, kept in parts of Asia and permitted by law in a few nations.Betrothal · After the wedding
🇳🇱 Amsterdam, Netherlands and 5 moreSame-sex marriage
The legal union of two people of the same sex or gender, recognized in dozens of countries.Modern · Engagement and betrothal
🇬🇧 United Kingdom and 5 moreRing fingerdigitus annularis
The fourth digit of the hand where wedding and engagement rings are traditionally worn.Attire · The ceremony
🇺🇸 Las Vegas, United StatesLas Vegas weddings
Quick civil or religious ceremonies held in Las Vegas due to easy licensing and diverse venues.Setting · Engagement and betrothal
🇸🇾 Syria and 3 moreMystery of Crowning
The crowning ritual in Eastern Christian weddings that marks the couple as king and queen.Rite · The ceremony
🇧🇹 Bhutan and 5 moreSororate marriage
A practice where a man marries his late or infertile wife's sister to keep family ties strong.Family role · After the wedding
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreSealing (Mormonism)
A temple ritual that binds couples and families together for eternity.Rite · The ceremony
🇮🇪 Ireland and 3 moreBachelor's Day
The custom that lets women propose to men on Leap DayBetrothal · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 Bogalusa, United StatesThe Coke Plant
A restored 1930s Coca-Cola bottling plant in Louisiana that now hosts weddings and events.Setting · The ceremony
🇯🇵 Japan and 4 morePicture brideNakōdo (仲人) matchmaking; Jungmae gyeolhon (결혼) process
Early twentieth century marriages arranged through photographs between Asian immigrant men and women in Hawaii and the UBetrothal · Finding a match
🇺🇸 United States and 4 moreHope chest
A wooden chest where a bride collects linens and gifts before her wedding.Attire · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 United StatesSame-sex marriage in the Northern Mariana Islands
Legal recognition of same-sex unions in a U.S. territory that became a popular destination for international couples.Modern · The ceremony
🇺🇸 United States and 2 moreSame-sex marriage and Judaism
How different branches of Judaism handle the union of two people of the same sex.Modern · The ceremony
🇨🇦 Canada and 1 moreMarriage commissioner
A civil official appointed to solemnize weddings outside of religious or standard court settings.Vow · The ceremony
🇺🇸 United States and 1 morePostnuptial agreement
A contract signed after marriage to plan for divorce or death.Vow · After the wedding
🇦🇺 Australia and 5 moreCelebrancy
A profession of secular officiants who create personalised life ceremonies for people outside traditional religious or sModern · The weeks before
🇮🇱 Israel and 1 moreLieberman clause
A ketubah provision for rabbinic arbitration to prevent a woman from being unable to remarry.Vow · Engagement and betrothal
🇺🇸 Honolulu, United StatesSame-sex marriage in Hawaii
The legalization of marriage for same-sex couples in the Hawaiian islands.Modern
🇺🇸 United States and 5 moreCommon-law marriage
A union recognized by law because a couple lives together as spouses, without a formal ceremony or license.Vow · After the wedding
🇭🇺 Budapest, Hungary and 5 moreTáncház
A Hungarian folk dance gathering that keeps traditional music and steps alive in homes and community halls.Performance
🇵🇱 Poland and 3 moreEaster palmPolish: palma wielkanocna; Lithuanian: verba
A decorated willow or juniper bundle blessed on Palm Sunday to protect homes and crops.Blessing · The weeks before
🇺🇸 United States and 1 moreVirginia reel
A line dance where couples move through a series of set figures in two parallel rows.Performance · Reception, dance and gifts
🇮🇹 Gubbio, Italy and 1 moreSaint Ubaldo DayFesta dei Ceri
A procession where runners carry massive wooden pedestals with saint statues through the streets of Gubbio and Jessup.Blessing · Procession and arrival
🇦🇺 Australia and 4 moreMeat raffle
A pub tradition where tickets are sold for a chance to win meat prizes for local teams or charity.Feast custom · Reception, dance and gifts
🇨🇦 Canada and 5 moreLoyal toast
A formal salute to the head of state given at official gatherings in Commonwealth realms and other nations.Vow · The wedding feast
🇷🇴 Romania and 5 moreKlezmerקלעזמער
The instrumental dance music played by Ashkenazi Jewish musicians at weddings in Eastern Europe and beyondPerformance · Engagement and betrothal
🇪🇸 Madrid, Spain and 5 moreTwelve Grapeslas doce uvas (de la suerte)
Eating one grape per midnight bell strike to welcome the New Year with good luckFeast custom · After the wedding
🇷🇴 Romania and 5 moreKlezmerקלעזמער
The instrumental wedding music of Ashkenazi Jews, blending Eastern European and Jewish ritual melodies.Performance · Engagement and betrothal
🇬🇧 United Kingdom and 5 moreWhite tie
The highest level of formal Western evening attire for men and womenAttire · The ceremony
🇺🇸 Salt Lake City, United StatesLatter Day Saint polygamy in the late-19th century
The practice of plural marriage among Latter-day Saints that drew intense government scrutiny and led to its abandonmentVow · Engagement and betrothal
🇮🇱 Jerusalem, Israel and 1 moreBekisheבעקישע (bekishe) or בעקעטשע (beketche)
A long black coat worn by Hasidic men on the Sabbath and at weddings.Attire · The ceremony
🇹🇭 Thailand and 5 morePrenuptial agreement
A written contract signed before marriage to define property rights and financial outcomes.Vow · Engagement and betrothal
Photo credits on this page
The small pictures above come from Wikimedia Commons under free licences. Some are cropped to fit.
- Meat raffle: ef80, CC0, source
- Interfaith marriage in Christianity: Andreas Praefcke, CC BY 3.0, source
- Twelve Grapes: Ralf Roletschek, GFDL 1.2, source
- Klezmer: Syrena Records (Warsaw), Public domain, source
- Klezmer: Unknown artist identified as "M.D.", Public domain, source
- Same-sex marriage in Hawaii: Bob Bobster, CC BY 2.0, source
- Saint Ubaldo Day: Marco Riccardini, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- White tie: jonlo168, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Loyal toast: Alaxander W. Galbraith, Public domain, source
- Lavender marriage: Katharine Cornell and the Playwrights' Company; Vandamm Studio, photog, Public domain, source
- Mystery of Crowning: Shakko, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Sealing (Mormonism): NewNameNoah, CC BY 4.0, source
- Mormon polygamy: Charles Weitfle, Public domain, source
- The Coke Plant: Ktkvtsh, CC0, source
- Same-sex marriage and Judaism: Ed and Eddie, CC BY-SA 2.0, source
- Easter palm: Evaldas Liutkus, CC BY 2.0, source
- Ring finger: RAPMOODDE, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Same-sex marriage: Stefano Bolognini, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Prenuptial agreement: Jan Josef Horemans the Younger, Public domain, source
- Double Happiness: kanegen, CC BY 2.0, source
- Sindoor: Masum-al-hasan, CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Bridesmaid: Photographer not credited; relative or work for hire of relative., CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Bekishe: JJ211219 at English Wikipedia, Public domain, source
- Groom's cake: Derek Key, CC BY 2.0, source
- Unity candle: Dvillasmil, CC BY-SA 4.0, source
- Saber Arch: Rabe100, Public domain, source
- Las Vegas weddings: Henrickson ( talk ) ( Uploads ), CC BY-SA 3.0, source
- Hope chest: Poul Friis Nybo, Public domain, source